My Christmas planters are made, the lights are up, the inside decorating is done, the gifts are all bought. As we do every year at this time, we watched Christmas Vacation, with Chevy Chase, to kick off the Christmas season. I love this movie and laugh year after year at all the silliness that happens throughout the movie.
There is a spot in the movie, where Chevy has the family gathered on the front lawn looking at his masterful light show. When it's his father in law's turn to share his comment, the only thing he can muster is "the little lights aren't twinkling Clark", to which he replies, "thanks for noticing Art".
Also recently, I was reading a really wonderful article, and one of the comments was - "you spelled _____ wrong".
I reflected on both of these examples ....the only thing the person could think of saying in both situations was something negative! I believe everyone and everything is our teacher. We learn from every encounter we have, if, we are open to the messages. We see this negativity in life every day. People that live in this mindset can only see the negative, regardless of how much positive there is, or how much there is to be grateful for. They wonder why nothing good ever happens to them.
Our minds are like a movie projector. We experience what we believe to be true. If you find your life is not playing out the way you want, it's time to change the message and your thinking, and there are specific steps you can take.
-Start finding something good in everything, no matter how "bad" it may seem. There is always something positive, if you take the time to look.
-Start a gratitude journal. The mind cannot think of two thoughts at the same time. Jot down things throughout the day that you are grateful for. Some people that keep a gratitude journal only write at a specific time of day. I find that making it a constant throughout the day, helps you notice all the little things to be grateful for, and keep you in a gratitude state of mind. Instead of struggling at the end of the day to think of 3-5 things to jot down, by making it a constant throughout the day, I find I have at least a dozen or more things on my list for the day. It really opens your eyes up to all the great things that are happening every day in your life.
-Make better choices in your life that support the direction you want to take. Often negativity stems from a feeling of lack of control, or stress. When you are involved in things, or with people that you do not enjoy it causes this lack of control and stress in our lives. Start making better choices on how you spend your time, and what you are involved in.
-Don't buy your own excuses. If you want to do something that is important to you, find a way to do it. It will empower and inspire you, and negativity will not be present because you are living life on purpose.
-Do something nice for someone without expecting something in return. When you are giving, you will feel better about yourself, which raises your attitude. This time of year, I always like to make an outdoor planter for one of my elderly neighbors. It only takes a bit of my time, and it makes her day and mine. Every time I walk my little dog past her house for the next several months, it makes me smile to know I took the time to do something nice for someone, and know that it meant a lot to her. So that one random act of kindness keeps bringing a positive feeling over and over each day I walk past her house. Notice, I get happiness from it, although it is something I do for someone else.
-Start really listening to the comments you make in all situations and catch yourself whenever something negative comes to mind or is spoken. Change starts with awareness. Once you are aware of negative comments you have made, you can then start catching yourself, and correcting yourself when necessary.
-Take yourself out of negative circumstances, stop watching negativity on TV, or in the news. You can take control of what your brain is subjected to. If you keep filling your brain with the negativity of the drama and news on TV, you will have to fight with yourself to stay positive. Eliminate it, and read something that teaches you something instead of wasting your time watching the drama.
-Put yourself in positive situations purposely. An example would be instead of watching the drama that is on TV, go out and hear a live band. Music is so good for the soul. Or have someone you enjoy spending time with for dinner. Take up reading things that actually teach you something interesting.
-Look at the people you surround yourself with...surround yourself with those that life you higher. Stop spending time with those that are negative and not in the frame of mind you are looking to create in your life. Sometimes you have to love people from a distance.
Anyone can purposely choose to be more positive, and eliminate the negativity from their life. The first step is understanding it IS a choice.
Debbie Ruston has been an entrepreneur and trainer since 1986. She works with individuals, and groups interested in developing their entrepreneurial leadership mindset. Was this article of value to you? Feel free to share it on your social networks and with your contacts, join in the discussion below, and FOLLOW her on the top right corner of this page.
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