Repeating the same thinking that has brought you to this point, is NOT going to give you better results! You must be willing to think differently and take different actions to get different or better results.
There are generally two main times each year that people review their goals. The first is those New Year's resolutions that people set and seem committed to - for the FIRST couple of weeks of January.
The second time is the final couple of months, when many reflect on what they have or haven't done throughout the year. Quite often there is frustration around not meeting specific goals that they "seemed" to be committed to at the beginning of the that year.
This tends to be an ongoing merry-go-round for many, who repeat this cycle year after year after year. This can apply to business goals, or personal goals such as weight control, or quitting smoking. Before we find ourselves in Jan. again starting the pattern over, NOW is the time to change the pattern to one of success. At this time, as you are reflecting on this past year, and looking at what you have achieved, and what you haven't, let's go deeper and find the causes and the solutions, so history does not repeat itself.
Think back to the goals you set in Jan. Make a list of all the things you achieved that were on your goal list, and also write down other things you achieved that maybe were not on your list, but you did achieve them. Take the list of achievements and for each one, write down all the action steps you took to achieve those goals. Also write down any challenges you had along the way. Finally, write down the solutions you used to get around the challenges. Now reflect on each of those things you did achieve. How does this make you feel inside? Do you feel a sense of accomplishment, confidence, higher self esteem, pride? Why is it important to you that you achieved these things?
Next, make a list of the things you didn't achieve on that list. Go through the same exercise....make a list of all the things you said you wanted to achieve, but didn't. Write down all the actions steps you did take, and also write down how long you took those action steps. Next, write down the challenges you had along the way. Now write down what you DID to overcome those challenges. Where did you stop? Why did you stop? Reflect on each of these things you didn't achieve. How does this make you feel inside? Do you feel discouraged, uncertain of what you are capable of, poor sense of self esteem, embarrassment? How important are these goals to you, and is it important that you reach these goals? WHY is it important? There should be some very revealing information in this exercise.
Now make a list of everything you want to achieve for the coming year. What action steps do you need to take? Remember that you have created success in other areas....duplicate the strategies you used to achieve those other things previously. What action steps will make the difference in your achievement of these goals? What are some challenges that may come up? What are you GOING to do to be solution oriented if these challenges arise? How important is it to you to achieve these goals? WHY? How will you feel when you see it through and achieve these goals? ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE FULLY AUTHENTIC WITH YOURSELF.
This exercise should help you see clearly what you have done to create success in certain areas....there will be a pattern. There will also be a pattern to what you didn't achieve previously. What do you need to change? Where have you fallen short? BeAUTHENTIC with yourself, don't sugar coat it. Have a plan. Know what you are committing to do, be accountable to yourself, and be solution oriented.
It's important to understand there is a massive difference between:
A: doing everything in your power to achieve a goal, and coming up a bit short, and perhaps having to keep at it, as it may take a little longer than you initial anticipated. For instance, you set a goal to lose 50 lbs by the end of this year, and you have only lost 30, with only a couple of weeks to go. YOU HAVEN'T FAILED!!!! You are that much closer to your goal, you are eating right and exercising. It may take a little longer than you thought, but that's ok, keep at it UNTIL you hit your goal.
B: giving up part way through and dealing with the negative emotions this brings up, and starting over every year, only to repeat the process. For instance, every year you decide you want to lose weight, and start off Jan. by committing to proper eating and exercise, only to get off track by mid Jan. and give up. You buy your own excuses...it's too hard, it's in my genes, it's snowing, I don't feel like it, it's not coming off fast enough, etc. EXCUSES DO NOT BRING ABOUT RESULTS - either in the targeted time, or in the extension of time needed.
As Einstein said "the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over, expecting different results". Stop falling into the pattern of setting "new years resolutions" that are common with what everyone else is doing. Take the time now to really get clear on what you don't want, and what you DO want, and put your plan in place on what you are going to do to achieve these things. Understand you cannot give up when it gets challenging or hard. You cannot just give it ___ amount of time. You must be willing to do what it takes for as long as it takes. You must be willing to course correct when necessary. You must be willing to find solutions. You must have a powerful reason WHY you want to achieve these things, that is bigger than ANY excuse or challenge that may arise. BE MORE COMMITTED TO YOUR SUCCESS THAN YOUR EXCUSES. When you take on THIS level of thinking consistently, you WILL start achieving more than you ever anticipated!!!
Debbie Ruston has been an entrepreneur and trainer since 1986. She works with individuals, and groups interested in developing their entrepreneurial leadership mindset. Was this article of value to you? Feel free to share it on your social networks and with your contacts, join in the discussion below, and FOLLOW her on the top right corner of this page.
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